A new year is a time for new beginnings. And as the song says, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.”
So, as we bid adieu to 2019, here are 10 things I have resolved I will not carry with me into the new decade.
- Making goals without plans. Without a step-by-step plan to get there, a goal is just a wish.
- Physical clutter. There is freedom that comes with letting go of things that have outlived their usefulness.
- Mental and emotional clutter. I can’t control how other people feel, what they do, or what they say. But I can choose not to carry emotional burdens that don’t belong to me.
- Resentment. When someone does or says something that hurts or upsets me, I will talk to them about it and I will let it go. Telling them might not change anything, but neither does resenting them.
- Distractions. Someone once told me to “be where my feet are.” When I am working, I will give my full attention to work; when I am relaxing, I will give my full attention to relaxing. Focus on one thing at a time.
- Unrealistic expectations. I’m going to have bad days. There will be days I eat great and work hard and go to the gym, and there will be days I eat junk and procrastinate and laze about. I won’t beat myself up for the latter. Every day is a chance to try again.
- Solitude. I’m an introvert; nurturing relationships does not come naturally to me. So, I will set aside time each week devoted to maintaining connections to the people I care about.
- Starting over. For every book that is published, there are a thousand first chapters being polished to death. In 2020, I will finish the draft before I begin to revise.
- Overscheduling. I cannot do it all. I will set my priorities, do what I can, and make sure to schedule downtime.
- Perfectionism. It will never be perfect. That doesn’t mean it can’t be amazing.